But I think you should work hard at not throwing away 30 good years for a drunken off-the-cuff remark.ĭon’t let your ego and pride kick away everything you’ve built up. This could obviously affect your confidence in bed and if you feel you can’t move on sexually, then it would be worth seeing a psychosexual counsellor. She needs to know how hurt you are and you need to give her the chance to explain and apologise for hurting and embarrassing you. Whatever her reasons were for saying what she did, you can’t move forward unless you talk about it. But then she discovered that her husband had been sexually abusing their daughter Tamsin since the age of ten. If these other guys were so wonderful, why did she choose you and stay with you for all this time? They are exes for a reason. Emma Charles thought that she and her family were living a normal life. I’m sure she’ll feel terrible because she probably was drunk and people do say things when they’re drunk that they’d never say sober.īut whatever she’s comparing you to, the fact is that your marriage has lasted 30 years. First of all, you have tell her what you overheard and explain how much it has hurt you, and that you don’t know how you can come back from it.